It’s good that as I get older birthdays tend to matter less to me, because they matter less to everyone else as I get older, too.
What we found in our lives this year is that there are just too many fucking things to celebrate! We have birthdays in Jan and March, along with our anniversary-March. Valentine’s Day- February. M’s birthday in April. Mother’s Day-May. Father’s Day and My mom in June, me, my Mother in law and four of our friends in July. ToddlerA in August. Other mother in law in August. Father in Law-August and September. Halloween. My dad-November. Jesus- December.
It’s too much, man. Let’s declare a moratorium on celebrating the birthdays of our entire friend circle! Let’s get together every 3 months for a HUGE party and celebrate every birthday/anniversary/candy-holiday that occured in the 90 days previous. Let’s let families cook dinner for each other or something on their birthdays, and call it done.
Um, family? That means you need to step it up.
Um, TeenHer? Forgetting my birthday when we spent the day together? Not doing much for your chances of a shopping spree on our upcoming trip.
(To be fair, the poor child did remember. 2 days ago. Please see my previous post on how this is a family tradition.)
In other news-I wish I had the entire letter to reprint but can someone just give me a quick gut reaction on this? Say a woman has 5 children. Say they are all under 7 years old. Say this woman’s mother suddenly stops returning phone calls, prompting mother of 5 to write a letter expressing her sadness and anger over being abandoned.again. Say the mother whose only responsibilites are her job in a chain breakfast restaurant and – oh, just that-writes back to complain that she has pulled back because of being “shut out” and that she is tired of being shut out. Examples of being “shut out” include when mother of 5 gave birth to her 20 month old, grandmother never getting attention from new mother -not even a visit to her camper which she had parked “only 15 minutes away” so being forced to leave the area out of pure sorrow when baby was 20 days old. Most recent example of being “shut out”-Grandmother lives “only 15 minutes away” yet mother of 7 week old twins has “not once come to visit” her. In her camper, which mother of five pleaded and pleaded with grandmother to park in their yard for this exact reason.
Mother of 5 is also in the doghouse because last year while she was pregnant, she did not once put her 3 children under 5 years old into her (ailing) minivan and make the 2 hour road trip to where grandmother was staying. Bad daughter!
I’ve decided that since said mother of 5 is my BFF, she is on thin ice if she doesn’t start pulling some of the weight in this friendship and come to MY house for coffee once in a while. Why doesn’t she ever go through the drive through FOR ME? Why doesn’t she ever want to go get pedicures anymore?Oh that’s right. Becuase she has newborn TWINS and THREE other small children.
I mean, jesus h cracker, Internet! Does this sit right with you? Is my husband right? Do we just have the Best Parents Ever? Is this normal mother behavior?
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Not normal behavior. My mom stayed with us for 2 weeks after the birth of each of my kids, and visits us almost monthly (she lives 5 hours away). My in-laws will make a 45-minute drive each way to pick up my daughter if our normal routine gets switched and we can't drop her off. My MIL stayed home with Henry when he was only 3 weeks old so I could go get a haircut. I often think I have the best parents ever, but this poor friend of yours has a mom who is waaay down on the list. Maybe not the worst ever, but closer to worst than first.
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